We all have that inner voice, intuition, or gut instinct (whatever you’d like to call it), within us that helps us navigate tricky situations and think critically.
The problem is, some people willingly and foolishly ignore that inner voice, and rather, go with “what the heart wants” or even worse, go with the opinion of someone else. This can be a huge mistake.
God is inherently within all of us. After all, we were made in His image. So, when we need guidance, God is there. When we need reassurance, God is there. When we need a second opinion, God speaks to us. Because God is within us, we have all of the answers we need—if we just stop being stubborn and listen to that inner voice.
Let’s say you’re going through relationship drama and you want to break up with your significant other, but you’re unsure if it’s the right decision. Most of the time, you know what decision to make but you’re afraid to do it. You’re afraid of being alone, breaking their heart, hurting their feelings, seeing them with someone else, jumping back into the dating world, or throwing away years of memories together. Those are all valid reasons to be afraid. I get it and I’ve been there before. However, despite all of your fears, you still know what the right thing to do is because you’ve probably ruminating over the decision for weeks. So, here’s my question to you: why not just listen to that inner voice and act on it?
Things can start to get tricky if your significant other constantly tries to convince you that you can both “work it out”, for instance. Hear me and hear me well—no one should have to convince you to think a certain way. If you know for certain that breaking up is what’s best for you, just do it. Rip that damn bandage off, sis. It won’t feel good in the moment, but later you’ll thank yourself for going with your gut feeling. Yes, it will be difficult to initiate the break up whether you’ve been together for 1 year or 5 years, but the fact remains the same. If you have an inclination that the relationship isn’t serving you anymore or that your partner isn’t supporting you in the ways you need, that’s fine. If you feel like you both don’t want the same things anymore, guess what? That’s perfectly OK. It’s normal and happens all the time. It’s normal for you to change your desires and standards in a relationship. It’s called growth, baby girl. So do yourself a favor and find a way to end that relationship and move on.
In a romantic relationship, growth is important. If you and your significant other aren’t helping each other become better versions of yourselves and elevate your life in the ways you need, let that relationship go. If you suspect there may be some dishonesty on their end, let them go. Stop feeling like you owe a person your time and love just because you’ve invested years into a relationship or even if they’ve met your family. In the long run, none of that matters. Meeting family members and close friends means nothing if you’re getting red flags from your partner. Sorry sis, but the family can’t fix that. Please understand that you have the luxury of leaving a relationship that no longer serves you, especially if you aren’t married. Learn to listen to your intuition the first time.
Now, let’s say you ignore your intuition and give into your significant others pleas for another chance. This can be the perfect recipe for disaster. By choosing to ignore your gut feeling and those red flags you’ve always tried to dismiss, you do yourself a huge disservice. For many women, they know they’re guilty of ignoring red flags. I’ve done that too. As a result, this can give God the perfect opportunity to make a lesson out of your decision. If you continue the relationship and it doesn’t turn out well, you could end up dealing with additional stress and heartbreak that could’ve been avoided. This could become yet another learning experience for you and possibly derail the plans and goals you’ve had for yourself. I’m all for learning from past mistakes, but please understand that you also have the opportunity to avoid certain conflicts by listening to your inner voice the first time and making the tough decision to leave, rather than giving second and third chances.
The point is, always listen to your intuition because it’ll never steer you wrong. You deserve to make the best decisions for you. Put your happiness and peace of mind above everything else.